Choosing a dildo for strap-on sex
Strap-on sex is a fun way to explore fantasies, new ways to give and receive pleasure, and to get curious about using sex toys. Strap-on sex can be about anal, oral, or vaginal sex and usually requires a strap-on harness, dildo, and lube. Equipment can really impact your experience in strap-on sex, and your pleasure, so it's important to find the right equipment.
If it’s your first time introducing sex toys into the bedroom, take things slow and use these tips.
How to choose a dildo for strap-on sex
Is the dildo strap-on compatible?
For a dildo to be compatible with a strap-on harness, it will need to have a flared base. Depending on the type of harness you have, you might need to consider the diameter or girth of your dildo. Some harnesses have the option to swap out the O ring to accommodate for girthier dildos, but some harnesses (especially underwear or brief style) have only one ring.
Do you want a double-ended dildo?
Double-ended dildos can be used with or without a harness depending on your comfort. One end of the dildo fits inside the vagina, like the Fuze Tango Double-ended Dildo. Some double-ended dildos also vibrate, like the Fun Factory Share double-ended dildo.
Do you want a phallic dildo?
Some people enjoy a strap-on fantasy with a dildo that resembles a biological penis and some people prefer non-phallic dildos. If you want a dildo that looks like a penis or has testicles, here are some options:
The New York Toy Collective Pack and Play dildo is a great bendable sex toy for people who are looking to wear their dildo out, bent under their clothing during the day, and then adjusted to an erect position for strap-on play.
Are you having vaginal or anal sex with your strap-on dildo?
For anal sex, choose a strap-on dildo that has a smoother, rounder head to make it easier to penetrate the anus. Bigger isn’t necessarily better, depending on how comfortable the person being penetrated is. Glass dildos aren't great for anal strap-on play because they can be too intense and too rigid. Dual-density dildos are great for anal strap-on sex because they're softer on the outside but firm on the inside, making anal penetration smoother.
Here are some great beginner pegging or anal sex dildos:
- Mistress Vixen Creations Vibrating Dildo
- Fuze Star Silicone Suction Cup Dildo
- Vixen Creations Leo Suction Cup Dildo
For vaginal strap-on sex, choose a dildo with a curve to maximize stimulating the inner parts of the clitoris that can be accessed through the vagina, like the G-spot.
Here are some beginner and intermediate dildo options for vaginal strap-on sex:
- Maia Kendall Suction Cup Silicone Dildo
- Fun Factory Magnum Silicone Dildo
- Fuze Velvet Silicone Dildo
Choosing lube for strap-on sex
Lube creates the texture for penetration that improves both pleasure and safety. Lube is great for vaginal or anal strap-on play.
Remember to re-apply after thrusting for a while. Silicone lubes are not compatible with silicone sex toys and water-based lubes can be used with any material of toy.
Try these lubes for strap-on play:
Strap-on sexual health tips
Some people experience sensitivity or pain from the bumping of a dildo base against their pubic area. Check out bumpers that can attach to your dildo to create a cushion for your public bone.
Sex toys should be part of your sexual health considerations, too. After all, they can transmit body fluids from one person to another. Consider putting condoms on dildos to contain fluids and to make clean up easier!
Here are some ways to make Safer Sex Sexier.
Any body, including bodies with penises, can strap-on a dildo. If it’s your first time strapping it on, check out The Beginner’s Guide to Strap-on Sex or our Pegging 101 Guide. Need help choosing a harness? With so many different strap-on harness options, it can get confusing. Learn how to choose a harness for strap-on play here.
Remember whether you're just starting out with strap-on play or you're experienced to take it slow, communicate, be open, and have fun!
