ArtCore

Friday November 6

Doors 8pm/show 9pm

Bread and Circus (299 Augusta Street)

$10 at the door.  Proceeds supporting the 2010 Feminist Porn Awards

One person’s art is another person’s porn, and one person’s porn is another person’s art.  ArtCore will look at art influenced porn and porn influenced art with video screenings and performances that laugh in the face of boundaries between the erotic and the artistic.

Featuring clips from both new directors and new work from Feminist Porn Award winning directors, this evening promises you’ll never look at fruit, hot dogs, Barbie dolls or fully clothed men in quite the same way again.

Art House Sluts- follows the rise and sexual downfall of artsy slut Maddie Superstar, with an impressive performance art scene starring Jiz Lee and Syd Blakovich along the way. Directed by Madison Young, winner of Feminist Porn Awards for Hottest Kink Film 2008 Bondage Boob Tube and 2009 for Perversions of Lesbian Lust, as well as Indie Porn Pioneer 2009.

Fruitcake - How do you spell revolution?  We spell it A-N-U-S.  From Sweden, directed by Sara Kaaman and Ester Martin Bergsmark.  Part of Dirty Diaries: 12 Shorts of Feminist Porn.

Glamazons - Zaftig mega-star April Flores shows us what Barbie dolls are really good for.  Directed by Carlos Batts, Winner of an Honourable Mention Feminist Porn Award Winner for Voluptuous Biker Babes in 2009.

Headshot - A different take on Andy Warhol’s “Blowjob”.  How explicit does something have to be to be called porn?  What is too explicit to be called art? Directed by Jennifer Lyon Bell, winner of an Honourable Mention Feminist Porn Award for Matinee in 2009.

+ Performances and installations:

Dylan Ryan investigates the interplay of fantasy life and public space that is present in the creation of porn, through dance and more. Dylan is also the 2009 Feminist Porn Award winner for “Heartthrob of the Year”.

Frances Mahon’s “Donut Spectacular” is an intimate, interactive performance exploring sexiness, awkwardness, greed, and sugar.

Ab Horrence will set your loins aflame with his intimate and interactive bed time story.

+ raffles galore, art surprises, and more!

ArtCore is a fundraiser for the Fifth Annual Feminist Porn Awards, which will be held on Thursday, April 8 and Friday April 9 2010.

Good For Her has oodles of workshops that are open to men, but I wanted to take a moment to point out the workshops that we have especially for men!

Muff Diving For Men: The Art of Cunnilingus Thursday October 22 (7-9:30pm)

Timing is everything! The art of muff diving requires awareness and desire. Explore advanced tips, techniques and positions for going down on women. This workshop will also offer advice on communication, safer sex, and toys; all are keys that can help her realize mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasms. Be there! Men* only.  $35.  With Renee Pilgrim

Find Her G-Spot: A Workshop for Men Wednesday November 4 (7-9:30pm)

In this workshop you will learn everything there is to know about her anatomy and how to hit the spot that everyone is talking about! Say goodbye to the mystery with these new skills and positions to pleasure her more than either of you thought possible. Men* only. $35.   With Tara McKee

Dear CoCo,

I’ve been dating this guy for a few months and a few weeks ago we had sex for the first time.  I was a virgin so it really was the first time for me he has a little more experience.  Well, it turns out that I love having sex with my boyfriend.  He’s great in bed and everything we do feels amazing… except for one thing - the actual penetration part.  Every time we do that it ends in disaster.  Either I’m underwhelmed or worse, it’s really painful.  I’d really like to enjoy all aspects of sex with my boyfriend but it seems like I’m never going to like penetration.  Is there anything I can do to get better at sex?

Foreplay Is Fun Initially

Hi FIFI,

Ok, Take a deep breath!  Everything’s going to be all right.  Girl, you are not alone.

It’s important that you know that there are a lot of women out there who don’t find penetration sex to be all it’s cracked up to be.  In fact it’s estimated that as much as 75% of the female population does not orgasm from penetration alone.  Most of our nerve endings are concentrated in the clitoris which is often understimulated during intercourse.  The vagina has relatively few nerve endings and isn’t as big a deal for most women.  Pain during intercourse is also more common than you’d think.  Luckily there are some things you can try to make penetration feel better.

1.  Masturbate or use a vibrator on your clitoris during penetration.  This will mean that both you and your partner are getting the pleasure you deserve.  After all fair is fair.  Why should he get off when you don’t?

2. Make sure you are ready for intercourse and totally turned on.  The vagina becomes more elastic as you become aroused and it actually lengthens and balloons out at the back to make penetration easier.  Pound for pound women have just as much genital erectile tissue as men (ours is just internal) so you should BOTH get hard before you even think about penetration.

3.  Get lubed up! Some women naturally produce enough lubrication to make sex slippery and comfortable but some of us do not.  Even women who get really juicy won’t necessarily be able produce an adequate amount every time they have sex.  The amount of lubrication we produce changes from day to day depending on a lot of different factors (horomones, hydration etc…).  Try using a store-bought lubricant to reduce friction and make penetration more comfortable.  There are lots to choose from so it’s all about personal preference and finding the one you like best.  You can check some out here.

4. Try different positions.  The position used during intercourse can greatly affect how comfortable and pleasurable it feels.  Experiment with positions that give you more control like ”woman on top” or ones that stimulate your g-spot like ”doggy-style”.  You can learn more about positions here or here.

5.  Explore your g-spot! Many women find that stimulating the g-spot during intercourse is a great way to get more feeling during intercourse.  You might want to try looking for it first with a toy or your partner’s fingers to see whether or not you enjoy the sensation.  Remember that it can take some getting used to and it may not feel pleasurable right away.  Many women say that when they first feel their g-spot it makes them feel like they need to pee!  Don’t worry though, you won’t pee BUT some women will experience a “female ejaculation” during which a clear odorless fluid is expelled from the urethra.  This is sometimes accompanied by an orgasm but not necessarily.  The G-Spot itself is actually a sponge that wraps around your urethra and fills with fluid as you become aroused.  As it swells it hangs lower and can be accessed by putting pressure against the front wall of the vagina.  This is why curved toys or a partner doing the “come here” motion with his finger work especially well for stimulating it.  You might want to learn more about it here or here.

6.  Focus less on intercourse.  There are many couples who, for many different reasons, choose not to make penetration the focus or end goal of their sexual interaction.  It is perfectly possible to have a full and fulfilling sex life without it.  Do more of the things you like that feel good and explore different ways of adding pleasure and stimulation for your partner as well.  The sky’s the limit when it comes to sexual pleasure and intercourse is only one small part of that.  A part that often gets more prominence in our sex lives than it necessarily deserves.  Even if you don’t want to give up on the idea of pain-free sex, taking intercourse off the menu for a little while can be a really good thing.  It tones down the pressure and guilt that often accompanies these situations and frees you up to enjoy, explore and experiment.

If these suggestions aren’t helping you might want to check in with your doctor about conditions like vaginismus that can lead to pelvic pain during intercourse.  Vaginismus can usually be conquered with some time, patience and a set of graduated vaginal exercisers.  This website has some helpful info about the condition.  Good Luck!

Got a question?  You can send queries to CoCo here.

We ran a little contest on our Twitter and on our Facebook group today, for people to tell us why they love boobs, because frankly, who doesn’t love boobs? These two entries were chosen as our winners, and they’ll be off to the amazing breast cancer fundraiser Boobalicious tomorrow! Here are our two favourite responses:

“What I love about boobs is that no matter what size your tatas are they will still be perky in the morning when you take your early morning bathroom trip during the chilly winter months.” Adriana Rolston

Thanks for the responses, and keep your eyes peeled for other great contests!

How exciting is this?

Good for Her is thrilled to present the 5^th Annual Feminist Porn Awards. The Feminist Porn Awards honor pornographers whose groundbreaking work offers a fresh perspective on the sexual expression of women and everyone who finds themselves under-represented in mainstream pornography.

The official nomination period for consideration for the Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards opens on October 5, 2009 and will close on January 31, 2010.

In order to be considered for a Feminist Porn Award, submissions must meet at least 1 of the following criteria:

1) A woman had a hand in the production, writing, direction etc. of the work.

2) The work depicts genuine female pleasure

3) The work expands the boundaries of sexual representation on film, challenges stereotypes and presents a vision that sets the content apart from most mainstream pornography

Categories for awards may include, but are not limited to: Canadian Content, Diverse Cast/Representation, Emerging Filmmaker, Independent, International, Kink/Fetish, Lesbian/Dyke, Short Film, Straight, Trans, and Web-Based.

Please send 4 screener copies of each work to be considered on DVD to:

FPA Nominations

c/o Good For Her

175 Harbord Street

Toronto ON M5S1H3

Canada

* For website submissions, please email your information and include a user name and password to be used by jury members

Filmmakers should also feel free to include any other information about their work that is worthy of consideration by the jury.

The two-night celebration will be held on April 8^th and 9th, 2010 in Toronto, Ontario.

Please visit http://www.goodforher.com/Feminist_Porn_Awards/FPA_2010.html for more information about the event.

Good For Her is entering their fifth year as producers of the Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards, the largest and longest running celebration of feminist porn in the world. Since 1997, Good For Her has been creating a nurturing environment where everyone can feel comfortable learning about sex and pleasure. Good For Her provides quality sex toys, erotic and educational books as well as DVDs and workshops that empower and celebrate the diversity of everyone’s sexuality.