Did you know that the hormone oxytocin is released during massage, and may help couples bond, and feel greater intimacy with each other?

And if you really want to do it right, may I recommend my two Of The Moment favourites: Intimate Organics Massage Oil and the Heartfelt Massager.  Each on their own are amazing, but combining them makes for a silky experience that is easy on the massager, and still results in bliss for the massaged.

I’ll admit that I’m partial to the Relaxing blend oil, with zesty lemongrass and earthy coconut, but the Sensual blend (sweet goji berry and sultry cocoa bean) and Invigorating blend (wild ginger and orange) are all amazing too.  These massage oils are very slick, very long lasting, don’t feel sticky, don’t leave you feeling greasy and did I mention they smell divine? 

The Heartfelt Massager is a little thing of genius too.  Because it’s made of wood, it doesn’t feel cold, but maintains a lovely and perfect temperature.  The stars of this tool are it’s two round nubs, but you can make use of the flat side, or the round top or pointier bottom of it’s heart shape to work magic too.  AND, when giving a massage is as easy as it is with the Heartfelt Massager, it’s very easy to convince somebody to help you release a little oxytocin.

Hi CoCo,

My guy and I have been in a bit of a rut lately and I’d like to try something new. I recently heard that guys have way better orgasms if you play with their butts (huh?).  This was news to me but I’m willing to admit there’s probably a lot I don’t know.  So…. here’s the problem!  I haven’t the faintest Idea whether this is something my partner wants to try or how to bring it up.  Then there’s the whole question of what to do and how to actually do it.  Help!

Curious about Boys Butts

Hi Curious,

Congrats to you on your willingness to venture into the great unknown.  When it comes to sex there are always new things to explore and lots of different ways to explore them.  Experimentation will keep sex interesting for both you and your partner so don’t ever be afraid to try something new and have fun!

The main reason guys like butt play is because it feels good.  Why?  well mostly because of the dense concentration of nerve endings around the anus.  You can totally do butt play without any penetration at all and just stimulate the external area. (more…)

Ok, it’s confession time.  I love porn.  No, I mean I really love it.  I spend a lot of time watching it, writing about it and getting off to it which is perfect since that’s pretty much my job.  Every year for the past five years I’ve been a jury member for the Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards and every year I wonder: How much porn can one person actually watch before they start to go a little nutty?

Well if you asked my boyfriend the answer would be something like one flick every night for a week,  After that, the images start to blur together and lose their, er….shall we say, effectiveness.   I, on the other hand, have no such limit and it’s a good thing I don’t because when the post-Valentine’s mad rush towards the FPA’s begins I’m likely to be bringing home  a massive pile ranging anywhere from 40-60 dvds.  At that point, 2 skin flicks a night is the bare minimum for maximum viewing efficiency and our household goes into porn overdrive mode. 

So what does this mean exactly?  One has to wonder whether CoCo spends mid-February to mid-March sprawled on her couch furiously masturbating to an ever shifting series of lurid images while sinking further and further into depravity and anti-social psychosis.  Thankfully, dear readers, this is not nearly the case (my long-suffering partner may disagree about the depraved part but he enjoys that so whatevs).  The truth is that porn simply becomes part of how I go about my day.  I watch it while I’m doing the dishes, making crafts, sketching, writing emails and even (on mute) while talking on the phone.  I watch it with a critical eye, looking for details like quality of production, chemistry between performers, authentic pleasure representation and sometimes even acting skill.  Of course I get off too but that’s really not the point - plus it interferes with my note-taking.  As a reviewer I have to be able to determine whether a movie is, in fact, strokable without always actually, y’know, stroking it.

So, how much porn can one person watch without going off the deep end?  Well, when that one person is me the answer is A LOT and it seems I haven’t found my limit yet.  Every year our submissions grow and there is more awesome feminist porn up for consideration.  I’m thrilled to be doing my part to recognize the hard work it takes to create fierce, sexy, feminist smut and to make you, the viewers, aware of it.  I will continue to suffer through the bad and get off to the good, for you, dear readers, because I’m altruistic that way.  Maybe one year, I really will turn into a quivering pile of jelly but I assure you it will have been worth it!

Love CoCo

Hello attractive Good For Her blog readers,

Some house keeping notes:

1) I’ve missed you since we last blogged.

2) I shaved my head over the holidays and may or may not look like a q-tip.

3) THERE ARE ONLY 72 DAYS UNTIL THE FEMINIST PORN AWARDS!

We have hit warp speed here at FPA headquarters and we couldn’t be happier.  As I mentioned in my INAUGRAL POST, there are tons of new opportunities for filmmakers both new and old to be involved in this years ceremony.

In other exciting news, the gorgeous Ms. April Flores has just confirmed her attendance at this year’s event!!

April exploded onto the scene this year performing in films such as Nostalgia and 2009 FPA Honorable Mention Voluptuous Biker Babes.

In honor of this occasion, I thought I would share a quick story:

Once upon a time I saw April Flores stick a hello! in her mmmmmmmmbop.

No joke, you can see it all here.

The end.

This year’s awards are really going to blow your hair back.

Let’s tweet.

Chase

PS: For those of you in the Toronto area, we are having a FUNDRAISER on February 11^th. You can find all the details on our Facebook page if you search for “My Kinky Valentine”.

Hi, everyone!

Wow, Vegas is a lot - a lot of traffic, a lot of beautiful ladies and a lot of amazing fun folks and I’m so happy to be here!  Yesterday was a bit of a hell day with travel, but I still got to meet lots of wonderful toy people, porno people and more.  Special thanks to the awesome people at Good Releasing/Good Vibrations who threw one hell of a party last night.  This picture should more than explain the wonderfulness of the whole night:

AAAAAAH!  It’s Jiz Lee + me + Nina Hartley!

Today will be lots of visiting people and talking about the upcoming Feminist Porn Awards!  Can’t wait.  I’m armed with buttons and flyers and a big bottle of Gatorade.  I’m really looking forward to today’s panel about women in porn including such amazing people as Tristan Taormino, Shine Louise Houston, Nica Noelle and more!

Okay!  More updates soon!

Good For Her is Vegas bound!  Yours truly is heading to Sin City to attend the Adult Entertainment Expo, tirelessly yapping about how awesome the Feminist Porn Awards are and checking out the latest and greatest in dirty DVDs and sexy toys. I’m also excited to visit so many excellent people, so if you are going too, let me know!  I’ll give you an I (heart/butt plug) Feminist Porn Button!

Also, we are all really excited about some great people who have been nominated at the AVN Awards, which are frequently called “The Oscars of Porn”  (The Feminist Porn Awards, according to Tristan Taormino, are like “The Independent Spirit Awards of Porn” or, as I like to call them the “Way Awesomer Than Anything Else Ever Awards” but I’m biased).  Here’s just a few of our faves who got nods from the big guns:

Jiz Lee - Web Starlet of the Year

Dylan Ryan - Best Solo Scene For Crash Pad Series 3

Champion (and amazing director Shine Louise Houston) - Best Video Feature  (which, you may remember, already won Movie of the Year at the 2009 Feminist Porn Awards!)

Madison Young - Best BDSM Release for Bride of Sin

Carlos Batts - Best Director (Non-Feature) for Voluptuous Biker Babes

Midori’s Expert Guide to Sensual Bondage, Penny Flame’s Expert Guide to Rough Sex, Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Threesomes and Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Sex for Men - All in the Educational Category!

Courtney Trouble - Best Music (both Roulette and Speakeasy were nominated!)

Nica Noelle and Sweet Sinner for Best New Line (check out Naughty Neighbors, The Stepmother and The Stepmother 2 for a taste of this!)  This lady also got a nod for Director of the Year!

Tristan Taormino (again!) for Best Specialty Release for Rough Sex

Buck Angel for Transsexual Performer of the Year

I look forward to watching all these brainiac sex pots walk the red carpet from the safety of my hotel room on Pay Per View.

And, yes, I’m serious about the buttons.

xoxo