Tampon ads. Skirting the whole notion of where it happens, pretending that women like to wear white and dance while on their periods, illustrating absorbency of menstrual blood with blue (?) liquid. But we all know what they are avoiding saying.  Blood flowing from the vagina.

The what?? Can we say that word in public?

Apparently not.

According to the New York Times, a tampon ad for U by Kotex that mentioned the word vagina was banned from three television networks. Changing the word to “down there” still got it banned from two. What kind of message is this giving us about our bodies? This perpetuates the feeling that many women hold (and that I myself once held) that vaginas are dirty smelly and ugly and not appropriate conversation. Well, it would be useful knowledge for women- and men!- to know that the vagina is a self-maintaining area that is cleaner than our mouths. It also would be great for women to not feel so ashamed about that part of their bodies, not to feel uncomfortable with the idea of a partner pleasuring them orally (and see it as a gift rather then an imposition), to feel ok asking questions and learning about their bodies rather than shame about it.  I applaud Kotex, the maker of these ads, in making fun of even its own previous advertising that was evasive in what the commercials were about  and for trying to break the taboo on naming what tampons are REALLY for. I am hoping that the day will come soon when the networks will accept the word vagina in their advertising as much as other parts of the body and further the cause of people talking about, knowing about, and feeling good about vaginas!

Check out one of the new Kotex ads here - it’s hilarious!

Hello attractive Good For Her blog readers,

Some house keeping notes:

1) I’ve missed you since we last blogged.

2) I shaved my head over the holidays and may or may not look like a q-tip.

3) THERE ARE ONLY 72 DAYS UNTIL THE FEMINIST PORN AWARDS!

We have hit warp speed here at FPA headquarters and we couldn’t be happier.  As I mentioned in my INAUGRAL POST, there are tons of new opportunities for filmmakers both new and old to be involved in this years ceremony.

In other exciting news, the gorgeous Ms. April Flores has just confirmed her attendance at this year’s event!!

April exploded onto the scene this year performing in films such as Nostalgia and 2009 FPA Honorable Mention Voluptuous Biker Babes.

In honor of this occasion, I thought I would share a quick story:

Once upon a time I saw April Flores stick a hello! in her mmmmmmmmbop.

No joke, you can see it all here.

The end.

This year’s awards are really going to blow your hair back.

Let’s tweet.

Chase

PS: For those of you in the Toronto area, we are having a FUNDRAISER on February 11^th. You can find all the details on our Facebook page if you search for “My Kinky Valentine”.

How much do we love Erika Lust? Not only is she the smart cookie behind Five Hot Stories for Her and Barcelona Sex Project, she’s now working on a new flick that is sure to be another stunner.  Check out this short (that will be a part of a larger project) called “Handcuffs”

Okay, so we know that Valentine’s is really the best time to celebrate some self-lovin’ right?  We’re all clear? For those of you who have partners, you know this too?  Cool.  If that is covered, let’s talk about some of the best toys to get down a deux or trois or more!

The Tango

How do I love this toy?  Let me count the ways!  First, the sleek blue colour is sure to please just about anyone, and the shape is just about perfect.  The Tango does a good job of improving the standard double dildo design and making it work like nothing else before it.  The little vibe placed right above the wearer’s clit is a verrrrry nice touch, too.

The Bo

Why has it taken this long for someone to come out with a safe and sexy rechargeable, silicone cock ring?  Get the Bo in either blue or burgandy and thank the stars and the smartypants at Lelo for making partner sex just that little bit better and buzzier.

Aslan Rubber Jock Harness

While a strap-on looks good all on it’s own, it’s really improved with another person to make use of and admire.  Everyone’s got a favourite, but I can’t get enough of the Aslan Rubber Jock Harness.  Sturdy, comfy and with outstanding control, this long lasting friend is sure to make everyone happy.

Bondage Tape

It’s neither very exciting nor recommended to tie yourself up.  Get someone else to do the honours with this smooth, shiny and sexy Bondage Ribbon.  It sticks to itself, not your skin, and with a little ingenuity, you can make a whole outfit out of the stuff as well!

Flexi Felix Anal Beads

Anal beads work better with an extra helping hand, and the Flexi Felix silicone beads are no different.  I mean, sure, you could use this by yourself, but why deny your special friends the joy of pulling these out of your butt right as you climax?  Share the joy, my friends.

Okay, now go have fun!

(SexyToronto Blogger Frances Mahon (right) and a lucky winner at the Good For Her sponsored Champion Launch)

We had an amazingly fun time at Granny Boots at the Gladstone Hotel on January 28th!  It was great to see everybody out to celebrate one of the best dirty movies that I have ever seen.  The reviews say more of the same - check out what sex columnist extrordinaire Sasha Van Bon Bon has to say about Champion:

Champion, directed by Shine Louise Houston, tells the story of a mixed martial arts fighter named Jessie — played by stinking-hot real life MMA fighter Syd Blakovich — and her trials in and out of the ring. (Watch the trailer here.) I know I said just last week that buying porn for Valentine’s Day is courting disaster. Yeah, I’m gonna need to take that back in light of this new information.

Firstly, the lighting, sets, music (taiko drumming, a brilliant choice to build fight and sex scenes) and direction are all top-notch, art-house quality. Houston has succeeded in capturing on film the sex you think you’re having when you’re fucking but which — if you’ve ever videotaped yourself and were mortified by the static lumbering combined with fits of frantic jackhammering — seems to have eluded your own lens. (For all you film geeks out there, she shoots on a Panasonic DVX100b at 24p with a 35mm lens adaptor. I don’t know what that means but the results are gorgeous.)

She lingers, with superb editing, on sex scenes that do not dilly-dally themselves. Feverishly hardcore and deeply intimate all at once, the real kissing and passionate oral sex are so arousing and so delightfully greedy compared to the usual faux-lez, slack-jawed tongue rolling, bogus moaning and baby-voiced reprimands.

Every moment of Champion bursts with lust: well-tended butch hands yanking on long, pretty hair, pale flesh all red-hot from slaps, swift, hard penetration and, good lord, finally some decently turned out femmes — no tattered feather boas or god-awful clompy heels. And hey, does your boyfriend suck at digital and oral sex? Are you all like, “Bitch, where’d you learn to handle a pussy, at Butterfly School?” The lad needs to see this movie, trust me. The final scene lacks the same charged charisma as the others but virtually no fast-forwarding, not once.

Thank you, thank you, thank YOU Shine Louise, for making what is hands-down the best pornographic film I have ever seen. Thank you for improving queer female and trans porn by more leaps and bounds than words can adequately express. And thank you most of all for making a movie that I got so out-of-sorts watching at the Toronto premiere that I had to take not one, not two, but three people home to deal with the situation. (One of you left your copy at my house, by the way.) I don’t care who you are or what you like to fuck, it doesn’t seem possible that you won’t find this film utterly captivating. Champion is available locally at Good For Her.

You can check out an awesome preview clip here, and purchase this amazing movie here.

Congratulations are in order for all of our American friends! While I’m disappointed that propositions against gay marriage passed in California, Arizona and Florida, I’m glad that the right to choose was upheld in South Dakota.

I really don’t know all that much about American politics, so I’m not going to pretend to. But I’m inspired by the jubilation I’m seeing in my neighbors to the south and I can’t help but feel a little bit giddy. That might be the tiredness of staying up late just so I could hear somebody on the television say “President Obama”. I’m getting shivery just thinking about it!