In Search of the G-Spot

Question:

How do I find my G-Spot and do all women have one?

- Searching for paradise

Answer:

As far as I know, all women have a G-Spot. Whether or not it is a pleasurable spot depends on the woman. The first thing to recognize is that, although you can feel it through the vagina, the G-Spot is not in the vagina. There is a sponge that surrounds the urethra (where we urinate out of) that fills with fluid when you are aroused. When you press a finger inside your vagina in the direction towards your clitoris (which is relatively hard to do to yourself -- ask a partner or a friend to help), you might feel a slight bulge that is textured a bit like the roof of your mouth. That is the G-Spot. On some women it is just inside the vagina, and on others you need to curve around and pull against the pubic bone. You might need a fair bit of pressure in order to feel something. You'll know you have found it when you feel like you have to pee. Some women find this pressure uncomfortable unless they are already aroused.

At Good For Her, our favourite toy for stimulation of this area is the Orchid. It holds its shape really well and easily gives the pressure many of us need. If you have a partner who wants to stimulate your G-Spot through penetration of a penis or dildo, then "The Incredible G-Spot" video has the best visuals and information I've seen on that aspect. For further information on the G-Spot in general, I recommend The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot.

I soaked the sheets!

Question:

I have just had sex with a new man, after separating from my partner of fifteen years. Of course it was a very new and strange and also luckily, a wonderful experience. He was much larger than my previous partner, not a bad thing after childbirth. My question is this: During intercourse, I kept soaking the sheets under where I lay, making a puddle of wetness beneath my bottom. We would move around the bed and it kept happening. What is all that liquid? It was new to me. Could I have been leaking pee with the pressure of him and the intensity of the fucking? It wasn't sweat. Is there anything else it could be?

Answer:

Sounds as though you are ejaculating. No, it is not urine, it is a substance that is produced in your urethral sponge that is similar to what is produced in the male prostate. It comes out of your urethra. Since he is larger, he is more likely to be hitting your g-spot, which improves many women's abilities to ejaculate. And the intensity of the relationship will help also. For a good description, you can have a look in the Good Vibrations guide to the G-Spot. Many women aspire to ejaculate. Enjoy!

My G-spot doesn't work!

Question:

My boyfriend attempted to give me an orgasm by massaging the G-spot with his finger. It didn't feel good at all. I did have the urge to pee. Is this because I was not fully aroused yet, or does it not work for all women?

Answer:

As you suspected, usually the urge to pee comes from not being fully aroused. I suggest that you go pee first (in order to feel relaxed about it) and then ask him to get you aroused clitorally or however you prefer. When you are approaching orgasm, ask him to also stimulate your g-spot. I find that oral stimulation is really great for the combo together. It seems that the urge to pee is lessened by the pleasure sensations. Ask him also to vary his pressure and where he is stimulating to see whether you respond in different ways. It is also possible, however that you are one of those who simply do not like G-spot stimulation. Our desires and preferences can vary from woman to woman.

My girlfriend feels like she has to pee during sex

Question:

My girlfriend has never had an orgasm. She says stop, I say why, she says it feels like she has to pee. Does this mean she is going to or not??

Answer:

It sounds like your girlfriend is experiencing G-Spot stimulation. The G-Spot is an area located on the front wall of the vagina, which can feel pleasurable from the opening to 2 inches inside. The urethra (the tube that you urinate out of) lies behind this fleshy area and as pressure is applied to the G-Spot, it indirectly puts pressure on the bladder. What occurs is a build up of fluid that can be released and is called ejaculation. Females can ejaculate out of their urethra, the same hole that urine passes through, and it may seem like she is urinating but it is not actually urine. The fluid is usually clear and doesn't have much of an odour. Some women do not ejaculate this build up of fluid out of their bodies but instead draw it upwards into their bladder, which also causes women to feel like they need to urinate as many women do after sex. The book The Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot and instructional videos such as The Incredible G-Spot and How to Female Ejaculate discuss how to stimulate the G-Spot and how to ejaculate.

Your girlfriend may be close to having a G-Spot orgasm which she is afraid to release because of the feeling of urination. Keep in mind that she may release some urine along with ejaculate and that this is normal. Urine is sterile and if you both communicate what she is feeling and you reassure her that this is normal she may be able to experience this type of orgasm. Suggest to her that she pee before you have sex and then make sure that you stimulate her clitoris or get her aroused before her G-Spot is stimulated. This will send more pleasure signals to her brain rather than uncomfortable ones. Finally, put a plastic bag down on the bed so that you do not have to worry about cleaning up if she does ejaculate.